😱😱FORGET IT, LOVE WON'T DO IT - THIS IS WHAT YOU REALLY NEED - DR MYLES MUNROE

 

Foundation, principles for male and female relationships. I want to begin with a scripture. Can you turn to descriptive for me? Please, because I want you to read in your Bible. It'S found in proverbs. Chapter 24. I read this scripture before I was married and I remember I was reading through the whole Bible as a teenager. I was about eighteen years old and I read the scripture and I was shocked when I read the scripture, because suddenly I understood it as a teenager, it was very young, but the scripture has become the foundation of understanding relationships. The scripture is about building a strong marriage, a strong home and a strong family. It is the wisdom of God, spoken through Solomon, regarding how to build a strong marriage, a strong home and a strong family. So here's what it says by wisdom. Our house is built and through understanding it is established and through knowledge. It'S rooms are filled with rare and beautiful treasure and go powerful stuff. The Bible here in the words of Solomon, are telling us how to build a strong relationship, a strong marriage, a successful home and a strong family, and it's not difficult to understand it, except we keep ignoring it. Now. Here'S God telling us here's what you need to build: a strong home, a strong family and a strong marriage, and he doesn't mention love. He doesn't mention sex, he doesn't mention holding hands and cuddling kissing, he doesn't mention emotions, and yet God gives us the formula for a successful family, home and marriage. We keep ignoring it. This verse also tells us what qualifies you to marry someone the only way you should really feel comfortable and confident in marrying someone is if they qualify with this verse for that right away. It makes you wait by wisdom. Our house is built through understanding, you establish it. That means it is firmly rooted and then, through knowledge, its rooms are filled with precious treasure. Let me explain. The last part you've been in a house where the people weren't speaking to each other, come on. You know something happens, ready, it's kind of quiet. You can feel ice in the house. Now, that's not bad and tell you marriage. It gets real bad there, especially sleeping back-to-back. It happens because people don't understand that the key to keeping ice out of your house is knowledge. You read it again. It says every room supposed to be like beautiful treasure is, in this place, precious things it's a nice place to come home to you want to be in every room together, every room seemed to be like a special place of treasure. It'S a beautiful atmosphere. The Word of God says every room supposed to be precious boy have some days shifts. This is tough to even go to the whole house. You know one go back to the way you go back to the house period, but yet he says no, if you do it right, every room is a joy. I want to remember this. Love does not build nor guarantee a successful marriage as a frightening statement. This verse tells me that love as you know, it is not enough. I have sat in my office right here in this Center with couples sitting in front of me with the divorce paper in their bag, and I hear them say to me: I can't live with him and I hear say: hey I'm saying to her she's crazy. I can't live with her either and then I asked the famous question: do you still love him? Why you can do what it can't stand, but you love him? Yes, some confuse now as a pastor game. So I asked him: dude is a lover, he's really cool. Now, yeah, why minor, she's crazy man, but your lover, the way again divorce? I can't live in it, but your lover! Yes, do you know that 99 % of the people who get divorced in love, one another 99 %? They still love one another during all the divorce process procedure. They still love one another, but you see they confuse love with wisdom, knowledge and understanding. I'M gon na give you a lot of dumb examples in this session, but I want to remember the exam, because examples are good feel it to understand the principles. For example, do you love your car? No, but I think you love your car, because what it does for you right. Okay, let's say you love your car. Just love! Keep your car running come on. If you kiss your car and tell how lovely it was and wonderful it is it does it does it still run? No, your car doesn't run on love. What do you need gasoline [, Music ]? How do you know that's what the God needs, because you know that's what the car needs, because you would know, no matter how wonderful you say this car is and you love the color of it - is beautiful and cute car and lovely car nice car. You don't put gas in that car, it quits on you. Even while you kiss it, human beings are no different from that car. You see, according to the Word of God, the key to relationships is not love. Ok, I'm gon na put these in order. Alright. In order to understand this list, you get a staff on the bottom, so I want you to write in your notes. The product you put on the top the bottom word. First, you need to get knowledge so write knowledge, that's the first principle to build successful relationships. You need what knowledge and then you move up and you need what understanding the second principle and then you move to the final one and that's what wisdom you need wisdom. Oh, do you need wisdom to live and now I'm going to teach you in this series. You'Re gon na get knowledge a lot of it then you're gon na get hopefully understanding. You understand the knowledge. My job is to break it down, and so you can understand what it's saying, because you cannot apply what you don't understand and then we are going to learn how to be wise. Let me define the three words for you very quickly. The word knowledge put next to it information, you need information, no relationship works without information, and this is usually the last thing you and I go after we go after hugging and kissing and holding hands, but we don't go after information and that's the first thing you Should go after the other problem is if we do go after 11 information, we go for the wrong information like me, get I've made from Oprah Winfrey, or we got information from some magazine on the Shelf of people who be married five times bad source of information. I can't think really of too many people who are successful Hollywood stars, who will ever be a model for you in marriage. And yet we read all those magazines and we spent our money on those magazines and then books from them place and we try to emulate these failures. The other problem is, we do go for knowledge. We go to get knowledge from our friends who have been divorced before talking to your sister who marriage ain't working and she giving you advice about your boyfriend, bad source of information or even your mother, who been divorced five times or your father, who been divorced five Times getting advice from him: it's not a good source of information when you get you information from, but you got to get knowledge from somewhere first. The second word is what understanding right next to that word write the word: comprehension, comprehension, it's a big word to comprehend means to able to be able to mentally cognitively relate to the information to the point where you can assimilate it to understand means you can you? Can take information and the concepts can be assimilated. You understand them, the Bible says you must get that, for example, I can tell you you should love one another. Okay, that's information. The problem is, do you comprehend that? No, but you might know what I mean by love, you know what love is matter of fact. There are three words there actually four words that are translated, love in the Bible. Three of them are very common. Let me think of three of them. So when I say I love you or you say you love your wife, we're not sure what you mean. So you got to be able to comprehend when the Word of God says to love your wife. What does it mean? Can you comprehend it? If you don't comprehend it, then you can't apply it and that's why you need teaching teaching is to help you comprehend information. I know how to love my wife rule. I know how to do it and it took me thousands of hours of reading to learn how to love my wife buying my wife. A dress is not love, you'll, be amazed. What a woman calls love you'll, be amazed and by the way the Bible never tells a woman to love a man, and yet men need love, but but it's not love the way a woman thinks love is. If you buy a man, flowers, he thinks you are stupid, you see, love to a man is different than it is for a woman. So I got a comprehend when you say how do I love my husband? You got ta, learn what love means to a man. The woman spells love, not LOV, a woman spells love differently. She doesn't love [ Music ]. Now you got try to figure what affection means to a woman. That'S a whole new ball game again, and yet she calls that love for what its affectionate. We can take. Two weeks just to study that one, but they complicated man. If your wife is mad and you buy her, a diamond ring she's still mad it ain't rich. She wants something else. You missed, you know in the Bahamas. We have this saying patch it up with the chicken in the back years ago and back don't work, no more brother. You bring all the chicken you want. Oh she's still ain't even deal with you because it's different, for example, one way that a man spells love wisdom, word, wisdom right next to the right, avoid application. Wisdom is the ability to apply knowledge effectively. Wisdom is what the ability to apply knowledge effectively. Let me tell you something: even though you may learn a lot about how to live with a husband, you got to also learn how to apply what you learn properly, because you can take information, that's good and make it a bad experience. That'S why wisdom is called the supreme wisdom is supreme. Wisdom is the ultimate. If you can apply it effectively, you get it. Wisdom is the most important thing in life. That'S why I never said she's a price made unto us understanding. He never says Christ made unto us knowledge, no he's made unto us what the wisdom of God. He is God he is he's. Not just information he's the application of divinity. He shows you how to apply God, it's the ultimate of Jesus, and so it is in relationships. How do you have a successful relationship with someone for your life? You need a lot of knowledge, a lot of understanding and the truck and go to wisdom, and that's what the Bible says. The rooms are then be filled with treasure. You can have a wonderful home. Every sink media office would be like a treasured place. Even going to work would be happier if you could have good relationships with people. There are some folks who don't want to go to work tomorrow, why they got to face somebody they're upset with, or vice versa, and it's not a nice place to work when people around you ain't speaking to you. So how do you relate to people where it's a joy, it's a treasured place to go there and he Majan not being able to come home to a place like very important [ Music ], you [, Music ]! Thank you! So much for reading