Qualities Of A Good Woman | Dr. Myles Munroe

Thank you for joining us for another power, packed message from dr miles: monroe provided by monroe, global incorporated and monroeglobal.com. We transform followers into leaders and leaders into agents of change. We hope that this message is a blessing to you as you advance your life and discover your purpose. Now, let's go into the message, qualities of a good woman. Last week we spoke on how to be a perfect lady. Today, we're going to continue and talk about qualities of a good woman. We discovered in this precious chapter here given us by the holy spirit, good things about god's attitude toward women and how he believes that they are supposed to be how he has given us a criteria to live by. So we can know what is a good woman. I want you to sit tight, get your notebooks, take some notes in verse, 10. It says a good woman, a virtuous lady, a good wife. A good potential wife is rare, like rubies and pearls first thing we learned is that good women don't show up every week. You got ta look for them, they don't show up on every block. You have to dig for them like precious jewelry they're like rubies. Sometimes good women are discovered in not too good places. Sometimes the family situation is not the best, but sometimes you find good women coming out of good good situations and good ones coming out of bad situations. Pearls come out of things like oysters, rubies come out of, rocks, rubies come and jewels and gems come out of dirt, but we wear them around our un[cks. We put them in little leather pouches and hide them in the drawer, but they came out of rock good things. Don'T always come out of good places, so the young lady, maybe your father's, an alcoholic, your mother is a lesbian, but you could be a ruby. Don'T let nobody tell you that your family determines your future or the environment of which you grew up in will determine what you'll be like. That'S a lie. You can choose who you will be and what you will be, because you have a will to do it and god will honor your decision decide to be a ruby. We also learn in this passage that this woman, verse 11 says her. Husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good and no harm all the days of her life and doesn't put pressure on him to get spoiled. You know some women, they just can't handle it. They want to live like somebody else. So they force their husbands to buy a a home out of their budget. That'S sin: that's not a good woman! The scripture says here that a good virtuous woman will not force her husband to get spoiled. We also discovered that a woman who is not a virtuous woman will put pressure on her husband to get involved in things that are not necessarily the best for the family. Some husbands got to go on steal to buy jewelry, to satisfy a uh, unsatisfiable woman. The bible says: that's not a godly woman at all, a godly woman. Does him good all the days of her life. Verse 13 says she's, not a lazy woman. She works with her hands she weaves and she sows at the dis staff. Verse 14 says she is like a merchant ship. She goes out of her way to get goods for her family. Verse. 15 says she gets a violence, still dark and prepares and provides her a home she's, not a lazy sleeper. She doesn't sleep all day and walk around and live a a day of rollers she's, not a bedroom, slipper lady, but she gets up before the sun is up. She beats the sun up to provide for a home. Well, apparently, this pilgrim gets up before the sun. Is up i'm going to check that i'm going to call you home brother, i'm going to call you at 4 30 just check see if she's up she better be up kid else, you're going to have to repent! You folks know if you heard what he said right, don't forget what he said: i'm going to give you his phone number in a minute, [, Music, ], verse 16 says she considers a field and buys it and out of her earnings. She plans a vineyard. Now. This is strange here: god is encouraging women to get involved in real estate, other women's places in the home, clean the children cook, the food mop the floor and have sex. That'S not what god thinks. Oh of course, your church may think that. But what does god think god says a virtuous woman, a good, intelligent, capable lady of god, is a woman who can go and get involved in decision-making processes where she can accomplish feats of economic gain. It says here with the earnings she plans a vineyard. This woman earns money and then she goes and invested again in agriculture. This is a serious woman. It'S a good woman. Qualities of a good woman is a woman who doesn't just keep saying what you think sam. What'S your thoughts on it brother, what you think honey a man wants, a woman who could think believe me, i'm a man, a wise man, an intelligent man would like to have an intelligent partner. Some men get tired of women always seeking for their advice. I don't get me wrong, doesn't mean that a woman goes off and makes our own decisions. If you are married, you are in a contract, you are in what you call a business contract when you form a company, the the shareholders in the company are partners and what happens to the company benefits everybody or doesn't benefit. Everybody depends on what happens, and so that's why you have what they call board meetings in companies for consultation on decisions. Now, if we decide in our company that we're going to buy some land, you don't go put down payment on the line without consulting the company board of directors. That'S a board decision, but it doesn't mean that you cannot go and check the land out and come back with a report saying the land is good land. It'S not swampy. It'S worth the investment and the price it's in the right location and the value will go up. You can do that without taking the whole board out there and that's what a good wife woman is capable of doing. She can go and check things out for herself and then come and gets consultation so that there will be peace in the decision. She is an investor she earns. Verse 17 is where we pick up here. It says she sets about her work vigorously. Everybody say vigorously put your hands up in the air: everybody both hands, just shake them, see how vigorous that is. That'S vigorous all right! You folks know program. I hope you did that. I saw you through the world by faith. She is not a woman who walks around my back sunny. You know a tired cooking all these years. You know this lazy man. Attitude is not that hard to do this. I knew she is vigorous about her work. We got some women who gets up and throw the spread off the bed. Zoom [ Laughter, ] roll off onto the floor. Bro tells the dog go, get my slippers, lazy, women, [, Music, ], cooking, grumbling all through the cooking, putting too much salt in it. Mom doesn't appreciate my cooking attitude: bad [, Music ]. You can always tell where she's where she been. You see her clothes falling out. All over the floor. He'S smiling. This woman is a energetic woman. I want to tell you something, ladies: the worst thing in the world you could do for a man of god is to be a lazy woman. You hear me a lazy. I understand why jesus kept company with some women. They were not lazy, mary and martha man. They were sharp. Ladies man, you read the scriptures kept. It says that they followed him and ministered to his needs. They would cook for him and take food and baskets and fall into the big crusades, vigorous full of energy. Every time the husband want to go somewhere. I tie it always tie it. Man take some vitamin b or something but get some energy vigorously sets about her work. She enjoys her work. Verse 17 says her. Arms are strong for her task. Oh, you got to eat good to get strong arms, don't diet too much hello. Some ladies died, so much. They ain't got opportunities to get energies to minister to their husbands, always dieting always on a diet. I know some folks are perpetually on a diet. Their ministry is dieting, this diet ministry and then they wonder why they're always tired your body is like a machine. It needs oil and gas to run and you can run of air. Oh how sad it is. You got. Ta have strength to be a good woman. You understand are taking this slope. Verse 19 says in ah verse 18. Rather it says she sees that her trading is profitable and she knows good merchandise when she sees it. Some of your translation says she knows how merchandise is good. Now, ladies and gentlemen, i want to say this carefully: some women do not know what they have now. I am talking from experience now. We know some men don't know what they have, but also. What surprised me in my years of counseling is that some women don't know what they have. There are some husbands, they're, not angels, but they're, not quite demons either, and the women treat them as if man they don't care. I know some men will rob banks to provide pearls for her. Do all kinds of things to make her happy and the only voice here for him is that's all don't appreciate the men. This woman knows that a merchandise is good. I think it's referring to everything that she possesses, including her husband. She knows that she has a good man and she lets him know it honey. I got a good husband. You are a good man. Oh how sad it is that women take their husbands for granted. Just like husbands take their wives for granted. We shouldn't do that, know your merchandise man, no quality. When you see it see, women look around and other guys dress cool and they think they're cooler than their husbands, but they're, not don't let the cool guys know you. There'S no one better than your spouse. I tell you this from experience, no one's better than your wife or your husband, and don't let anybody tell you they are when you find a person who displays the qualities of god. You better hang on a good merchandise, and those of you who are not married remember this. When you meet good merchandise, recognize it. It may not come in the kind of package that you prefer, but as good merchandise, recognize good merchandise, look for the characteristics of god and the qualities and virtues of the spirit, that's good merchandise, verse, 19 says in a hand. She hosted this staff she's a spinner. This woman doesn't only get involved in real estate on agriculture, but she is also a seamstress. I love women who sow their own clothes, say, amen. Man save a lot of money brothers. You know they got some women who can't even hem their husbands pants you all better repent and start learning. This woman is a seamstress she spins. Not only does she make clothes, she makes the cloth for the clothes. That'S an educated woman, that's a sharp woman, but i can't so learn. Learn it's a blessing. You'Ll bless your husband. If you learn this, so i tell you, i buy my wife cloth every time. It'S a bunch of material, just honey. Here i love you. Here'S the claw she tell you, i mean if i want a bride, the dress she has on now she made hey, can't really get a shot of that. Look at this. My wife made this dress. You see that hand me, isn't that beautiful. You all know good stuff, [ Applause ]. This woman is a seamstress she's, not a lazy woman and she sews her own clothes. Husband loves her for that it says she grasps the spindle with her fingers and she goes to town. She opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy. Now this is something that is lacking in a lot of women, they're selfish, the woman of god. The good woman has a quality of openness and giving there are women who feels that? No one, no one should walk on their carpet. Look me in the face. Now i'm not going to invite them to my house they're, going to dirty up my carpet what an ungodly attitude don't sit on. My chair sit on the floor. Sonny. We don't want to have anyone over to our house, because those people they're not acting good clues and good things come on watch those attitudes. Now the woman of god is a woman who invites the poor in she opens up her arms say: come come to my house, no, we buy a five thousand dollar carpet and we don't even let our kids walk on their shoes. Take your shoes off tell me: god says: watch it you're gon na lose your carpet. Also, people and women are selfish, sometimes with their husbands. Now hold your seat. You married folks just tight, see another woman. Talking to him. You get mad hello, i mean selfish. You want to hold everything to yourself, you know someone stands up and blesses him and hugs him in the lord and you thinking something dirty stop being selfish. Yeah husband goes out, and you know talks to a couple of the ladies in the fellowship and you when he gets home. Why you got to keep talking to these women mind this. The guy's mind is not even on anything negative, no ulterior motives, but you know these selfish thoughts. That'S my husband and that's my man. What do you mean my man? It'S my man, child, don't touch my man, that's god's man and the lord only loaned you that man, the bible, says in the new jerusalem, there's no marriages or giving in marriages. So you even ain't gon na know him as your husband in the resurrection. It'S mine. Don'T look at him, that's my husband. You ever heard those kind of things. It'S terrible, the selfishness that comes out, but this woman of god opens her arms to the poor. Poor women and men can come to her house. She doesn't run people away from her home. Doesn'T say: don't drink of my good cup get the old cups? No, when someone comes to you, they come to you as the image of christ and you give them the best cup in the house. Isn'T that right? The bible says: if you give a poor man, a glass of water in my name, you give it to me. Why would you choose your enamel mug with chips on it to give to jesus hello and you're, wearing furniture and you're wearing dishes? You hide in a closet that you don't use yourself i'll. Tell my wife get out the best, let's eat. Let'S look at the flowers on it. She is not a selfish woman. She opens up her home to the poor, so you're, still a virtuous woman you're. Still, a good woman, the quality of a good woman is that she's not tight. She doesn't buy chairs and sofas for her sake. She buys them for the poor what a blessing to buy an expensive city, a beautiful couch and then take somebody who thinks they does not deserve the best and sit them in it. Let them feel like a king bless somebody with the good stuff how sad how selfish it is. You want to be a good woman, buy the best and give it to the worse and then you'll elevate the mind of the poor. The paul will begin to believe that god is a good god and he's a nice god, and he teaches us how to appreciate good things. She opens up her arms to the poor. I love this last part. It says she extends her hand to the needy. She doesn't only invite them in, but she feeds them. She gives them things she gives things away. I know there are people females, especially they store up. Shoes hang on to your pants, they store up shoes and they keep them there for years they don't wear them. Some of these ladies got dresses, tucked away, they haven't only wore them once i don't like the way it hang on me. So they hang it up and they don't move it. They leave it there for years and there are people sitting next to them. Who cannot afford to buy the kind of clothes they have, but they won't give it away give away to the needy. Speaking of needy. There are some women who don't know how to receive. Don'T think i forgot you, there are some i'm not wearing what she wore. You better keep your mouth shut and appreciate god's gift. That'S probably why you're still needy, if you are because you're not receiving the blessing, but it says, she's a giver. She gives away the qualities of a good woman. This next line blesses me especially when i think about women, thinking that they are so delicate, verse 21 says when it snows. She has no fear for her household, for all of them are clothed in scarlet, underline the word scarlet now when it snows it doesn't snow. Here so we would have to say when it is stormy, that's the kind of weather we have when the hurricanes come or when the rain and thunderstorms begin to beat outside you don't take the mentality. Well, i'm shaking. If i go outside i'll melt. I say this woman is not afraid of the snow or the cold, and she also knows that her family are well protected. She dresses them in scarlet. Now scarlet is a very expensive material that was worn by royalty in the day of solomon when he wrote this. So you are talking about a woman who believes in good stuff. Now some women don't care how they look, but a woman of god cares how she looks and she doesn't just wear croque sack she tries her best to get scarlet or close to it. Sometimes i wonder how some women expect for their husbands to introduce her to somebody else. I'M serious some women. I see here, wonder man. I see some men hide behind somebody else. That'S not my wife man. She just appears to be you. Imagine bringing a friend home to visit and your wife comes out like she just came from under a rock good morning. Oh hi, you brought somebody okay, so you all want something to eat. I'M gon na get my slippers. That'S the attitude of some women. Some men are afraid to take their friends home because he may run into a monster rollers in the hair bags under the eyes fingernails different colors. This woman is a sharp woman here in proverbs. She likes scarlet and she gives her children. Good clothes wants them to look nice. Why? Because they represent her watch this it gets better. It says she makes coverings for her bed now. The word cover means she covers it up and she makes these coverings the personal touch. Do you know how much a man appreciates a handmade woven thing from his wife? He gets a sense of pride, she makes it herself and she makes up the bed. I mean some women don't even have to make it. The man buys the stuff and they still won't make up the bed. They don't have to make it now. The man presents it to them free here, here's the slip for the pillar, here's the the sheep and they still won't make the bed. This woman doesn't only makes the bed she makes the stuff that she makes the bed with qualities of a good woman. She goes beyond just what's expected or what's her duties or what she considers to be her ministry to her husband. Her husband is respected at the gate. Now, why is he? Is he respected? You got to read verse 22 and understand why it says this woman makes covering for a bed not only a bed though, but she clothes herself in fine, linen and purple now purple. We know is a royal color in the days of solomon as well. Linen is the most expensive material in the east, this woman she wore the best. Do you know what i like i like to see a woman who looks just like god, dresses. Nice cut sharp fixtures are here that is becoming of a representation of god. She walks distinguished. She smells exquisite, she speaks with eloquence and wisdom and she carries herself like a princess and a queen. It'S the qualities of a good woman. You read this. You begin to wonder you see some women say: ah i'm a christian bless god and they wear these long. Dark, colors head all wrapped up with turbans long sleeve, covering everything you know, no earrings, no makeup. No, nothing and the clothes the cloth they're wearing is so thick looks like spread and they walk around [ Music ] dressed to the ground, and they say i'm a holy ghost woman sure impressed me and some women think that that is spiritual to dress strange. Some walk around in all white white shoes, white, stalkings, white hat, white, dress, white, handkerchief, white, everything, even white eyes, and they walk around. You know hallelujah, it doesn't impress. God see this woman here is a virtuous woman, she's, an intelligent woman of god, and it says she dressing. Fine, everybody say fine, it didn't say just linen fine linen. I mean good stuff, fine glory hallelujah. When she walks into the place. Everybody stops and looks and says: wow and the husband know they're saying wow and he just holds his shoulder up and said: that's my guy! That'S my wife! There she comes walking into a place. Looking like something crawling from under a rock. Her husband can't introduce her. Some men are ashamed. I tell you ashamed to say this: is my wife dress in a way that your husband will be proud to sit in the seat of the gate, this man brags about this woman? If you understand that the terminology is used here in verse, 23, you would appreciate what i'm saying when it says here. Her husband is known in the gate. The city gate is the place, the seat of government or, as we would call it the seat of the the judicial processes. It'S the places where the people who are in charge of the city sat that doesn't mean they sat in the road in a gate. The word gate here is referring to a system of buildings. The walls of the city were bigger wider than this room three times over. The walls were so big the days to ride chariots around the top of the city walls. This the walls were like streets and in the walls of the gate, is where you had a lot of the judges living a lot of those people who were involved in politics lived in the gate. That'S where you did all of your business in order to get into the gate, it was whether the hub of the economy was operating at the gate. It'S where all the merchandisers came in to do their trading at the gate. You read the bible carefully. You normally find the blind man hanging around the gates, because that's where the folks came in with the money to do all the transactions this man referred here in this passage, is a man who is a businessman, obviously probably he's one of the high city officials, and He is well known, it says in the office now. Why does it bring him in the picture without dressing? Because when this man goes to work, he don't want to hear his colleagues say. I saw your wife yesterday boy she looked terrible rollers in her hairs, dragging slippers down banetown street man. You are an official respected man in this city and your wife is not helping you at all she's, not an asset to you. No, it says he was respected in the game. She carried herself in such a way that he was proud of her. He was rejoicing in the fact that he could say to them. That'S my wife. You see that dashing lady over there. That'S my sweetheart! That'S my darling, wife, the wife of my youth. They were respecting him because of her. It says where he takes his seat among the elders of the land. He was a city official, something that bothered me when i read this years ago was. I was brought up in a situation in church where i always were taught that christians supposed to be poor and that poverty was a blessing. But when you read this, you find that god's not into poverty at all. This woman's wearing fine linen purple, scarlet tapestry. You know what tapestry is man that is serious hand, work and she was walking around in that kind of dress and an appearance. Now you see somebody dressing real nice, the first thing you say they can't be a christian and it's funny when you start looking good people start talking bad. Isn'T that amazing? Listen! Ladies, look! Your best dress your best and be the best and don't let anybody disturb your desire to be a representative of god, and i appreciate women who help themselves a little bit by putting a little bit of makeup on. I really do some need it. [ Laughter ]. Some overdo it some put too much and then they look ugly but be reasonable and be moderate in your dress and in the way you carry yourself - and you know, put a little bit of a little bit of you - know red in your cheeks and bless yourself. But i mean there are some, ladies, who think that being spiritual means to look like a donkey and they walk around with long face, bless god, i'm a holy woman. I don't wear earrings, i don't wear lipstick. It'S of the devil. The book of proverbs says a beautiful countenance lifts, the spirit. Isn'T that something when you look nice, the people around you are lifted, but when you look mean you depress them, there was a lady in the baptist church. Where i used to attend some time ago and as little boys, we used to be afraid to even say good morning she was mother, somebody we were afraid to say good morning to her she'd, look at you and she go and we wanted to say good morning, But we run the way she looked repelled us, but this woman was so dashing. She'D walk around in linen scarlet knew how to carry herself, verse 24 doesn't say she only make them for herself, but she makes linen garments and sells them. This is one busy woman estate agriculture, merchandising now she's in the clothing business, women should stay in the house, not even what god is implying here. The man brings home the bacon, [ Music ], you notice. A woman's liberation thing is ungodly. We'Re not talking about women's liberation, we're talking about being the women you were created to be from the beginning. You don't want to become equal in the man. That'S not your purpose. You don't want to do away with the man's position. That'S ungodly! God wants you to become the woman he created you to be so you could be an asset to the man, a woman. This woman is a merchandising woman. She makes the clothes and she sells them. Verse 24 says her. Business is a big business. Read that man it says she sells to the merchants, there's no little dress making at the house. Now, if you make dresses in your house, fine, don't get me wrong, but you see we get the idea. That'S the only place it's supposed to happen, but this woman sells to the merchants people that come in to trade to take back to the east to sell. She makes them by the hundreds. Now, how can one woman make all of these dresses? You know she can this woman has a factory, and she has ladies sewing for her. She is a supervisor of managers. What you're looking at she got. People hired employed, so you won't be the clerk in the store start as a clerk, but put your eyes on the manager position. Don'T just settle to be a clerk for your life, shoot for the supervisor say to yourself, i'm gon na start as a clerk, but i'm going to end up running this place soon and then work with that attitude. This woman is a is a manager or manager. She is the kind of person who's not afraid to take responsibility. You know i love to see these precious business, women and men in this fellowship that encourages me when i see women starting their own businesses. One of the things that bothers me is that the church sometimes puts people down, but then expects them to give. How can a poor person give? I pray that everybody who comes in the body of christ would realize that they supposed to prosper. They are different. The levels of prosperity but they're supposed to prosper. This woman is a supervisor a leader. She supplies the merchants with sashes and drapes. She is clothed with strength and dignity. I want you to relate verse 27 to that verse, 20 to verse 22 rather to verse. 25.

She'S clothed in fine linen and purple now, what does that mean? She dresses in good clothes, but all of a sudden in verse, 25. We find that she is also clothed with dignity. There are women who dress nice, but act bad. One time i was sitting in a hotel lobby, i saw a lady come out of the elevator and she was dressed. I mean fine and she sat down in the chair over in the lobby pulled out this pack of cigarettes to start hitting. She started sucking on that cancer right and all of her beauty went up in smoke. I saw an ugly woman, i said lord. She just destroyed a whole image, don't just look at the linen brothers and don't get carried away by the scarlet check. The dignity see, if they're the kind of woman that represent god, that they they respect themselves, they like themselves. They appreciate the image of god in them, the worst thing in the world. The book of proverbs goes on to say: is a brawling woman you'll find that in chapter three, when we get to it later on in the series, but you say what is a brawling a loud woman, some women look nice, but when they open their mouths yuck. I mean i've seen some fine, ladies, and when they started cursing, oh, they became so ugly. I was repelled dignity. Ladies, a good woman has the quality of dignity. What is dignity? Dignity is the way you carry yourself. That is becoming of respect. You demand respect without saying a word. The way you act the way you speak the way you live the way you dress. You demand people to respect you. We hear the term often loose woman. A loose woman is an undignified woman. She has no self-respect. Many of you know these women, i'm talking about you, see them often see women stand up in the street cursing talking loud. Fighting dignity, dress yourself in dignity. Somebody talk bad about you, don't go to them and tell them off. That'S undignified. Have some dignity don't lower yourself to that person's level? To answer them back, keep your dignity intact! You know, dignity is like credibility. It takes a lifetime to gain it and a second to lose it and once you've lost it, you've got to work another lifetime to gain it so keep your dignity. Some of you have made some mistakes in the past and you've lost your dignity, but, thank god, jesus christ is putting you back together and he's bringing back your dignity and people now beginning to see a new woman. Keep that dignity protect it and guard it carefully and don't become someone who loses the respect in this verse 25. It says she lasted the days to come. Why is she laughing? Because she got the the plans all squared away, to take care of the days to come. She does not worry. She doesn't go to husband and say nah tell me honey how we can do this, how we can do that? How we can buy this? How we can pay for that? She is laughing at the days to come. She'S not uptight about the future she's relaxed. Look at this passage when you read this, you begin to understand why verse 26 says she speaks with wisdom. Wisdom is what wisdom is from the mouth of god. It'S jesus, this woman is filled with jesus when she speaks people hear jesus. His nature comes out of her unfaithful instruction is in her town. She speaks and when she speaks you can depend on her words. It says she watches over the affairs of a household. Some men cannot do that. We heard in the seminar gone this week by the teacher who shared he said. You know some men run away from the home affairs. They don't want to run the finances of the home, they don't want to be responsible for making sure the bills are paid. They want to leave it up to the woman. I don't think that's god's way, this woman is so busy all these other projects. She must be a go-getter. Could you imagine a man telling this woman, i'm too busy honey? I don't have time to look after these things. Could you imagine what that woman could tell him? Listen here, sonny you speaking of busy, i'm a farmer, i'm a supervisor, i'm a merchant. I am a seamstress, i own a clothing store and i'm still running the home. This is year, but you know how can a woman run the home and still be out to work? I don't know according to this woman she's doing it, she does not eat, and please underline this. Ladies, the bread of laziness wow. Did you hear that she does not eat the bread of laziness? Idleness idol is doing nothing all right all day with this one being doing so, i'm normally telling check on the tables around you may find some mills and bones or when you come home, put your hands on the television. You may feel it's warm. You know there are many ways to find out what's going on, but you see we we need to ask ourselves. Are we idle? Are we an idle person? A good woman has the quality of industry. She'S, not lazy. The island is also is, is a situation where people sit down and they call up on the phone and talk all day to friends. That'S idle talk. Some women spend all day on the telephone. Gossiping a good woman doesn't have that quality. She doesn't waste time wasting time. She has work to do when she does it. No wonder why this woman can't be idle. Look all the things she's involved in. No wonder why she's accomplished so much if you converted the time that you spent gossiping into productive energy. Some of you would own factories and you'll probably be stronger because you'll save your breath, but it's amazing idleness is a serious sickness that runs through the female creature. I hope you got cured now. Man, we also suffer from idleness. The only difference is the women do theirs in the house. The men do theirs on the blocks. We need to repent of being lazy and unproductive. We need to take our time and redeem it and make sure that every moment we spend is productive in our lives. For god, as you begin to close this this last chapter of proverbs, you begin to see something about this woman. They move away from her clothing from a business and suddenly it starts to talk about her position in the family. He says her children arise and call her blessed her husband also, and he praises her. Then it tells you what he says. First of all, her children begins to respect her because of the kind of woman she is says. Her husband praise her now most women love to hear good things from men, especially their husbands, and there's nothing wrong with that. I think that's quite normal. That'S why the lord has it in there, but it says, look what she has to show in order to get praise. This man comes back home five o'clock in the afternoon after a hard day's work to greet him at the door. Is a woman dressed in a night clothes with rollers in her hair wrinkles on her face one slipper on and she says, praise me praise you blessed. Are your rulers? Oh darling? How wonderful are your eye bags [, Music ], the wrinkles of the spread in your cheeks are adorable. No, the man looks at that and goes woman. What'S wrong with you. That'S not a praise. Man, that's a downer. Then he crosses over the threshold of the front door, steps in and closed all over the floor and he starts nagging woman. What have you been doing all day and she says you always argue in you never tell me anything good. The guy's trying hard to find something good. He try it hard checking on everything, can't find it. Then he says: well, anyhow, i'm hungry it's not finished yet. Oh lord woman, you can't even cook on time, see you don't appreciate my cooking. It says a husband praises. Her praises her when he comes home, she doesn't come to him with a bill. This woman, she comes to him with more money. Here'S what we earned today from the farm man, any minor, come on grinning glory. This woman is a blessing to me. I sold 2 000 dresses this week, darling oh honey, i'm so glad i married you. You are an encouragement to a man. You are an investment in a marriage. You are an asset, not a deficit. You are something wonderful! You get up early before. I'M up you go to bed and burn the candle woman. You deserve praise. Are you a good woman? Don'T answer that yet, and this is what he cries out notice, the the colon after her the colon implies, here's what he says, the continuation of the thought he says, woman, many others have done nicely, unnoble things. There are many good women in the world. There are some that are better shaped than you. There are some that have better jobs than you. There are others who's here will make. Yours look like nothing. There are those whose noses are shaped perfect. There are those who've got more better cars and houses than you, but woman see when you win this man with the qualities of god. He doesn't say that others don't exist. He doesn't act like a fool. He acknowledges their presence when another nice lady comes in and she says hi there. He says hello, that's my wife over there and she is number one. This man looks at his wife and he said now many others are fine and they look cute and they try and attract me and everything else. But what does he say you excelled and surpass them all wow. What would you do to hear that marcia glory hallelujah? I mean what would you do to hear that angie you hear that now, hey yeah, praise, god, that's that's the secret, that's what you want to hear. Isn'T it woman? I work with some nice, ladies in the office, but listen you make them look like nothing. Man, do you know when you tell your wife that instead of cooking one meal, she cooks two instead of sweeping the floor once you sweep it three times, i guess what i really learned from this. Is that there's nobody better than your spouse. I mean nobody, woman, many others have done nobly. I really want you to remember that statement. Many others we get the idea that when you get married, like i said before, everyone else vanishes, that's not true brother. When you get married you're going to discover that the ladies who you never used to notice are going to become noticeable and they will introduce themselves to you, they will come out of their way to say hi there and you can wide your wedding ring. All you want, they don't care they're gon na get you so you better realize that the one you married excel them all. I appreciate beauty, physical beauty. I appreciate nice clothes and i tell people when they look nice. I tell them, but don't let when i tell you you look, nice means i won't marry, you don't go, run off and say brother miles likes me. You understand i mean if, if someone's husband tells you you look nice, don't think he likes you and wants to marry you. This husband is a is actually appreciating other women here. He is making it known that he knows there are nice women around, but he is convinced in his heart, no matter how they look, how they dress, how they walk, how they talk. None of them are better than his wife and men until you get to that point, you are going to be in serious trouble and women make sure get him to that point. Obey the qualities of god laid out here and you will end up having a man who will be able to say to you. There are many who look nicer than you physically, but you are beautiful than all praise praise her and just in case you missed the point he says, charm and beauty is deceptive and fleeting, but a woman who fears the lord is to be praised. Beauty is vain. He says charm is vain and empty beauty is passing, so don't build your relationship on somebody's physical looks. There was a story of a true story of a young girl in a russian prison. Romania rather and she was going to be destroyed for a faith in jesus and the communist soldier said to her. We are going to cut your beautiful face up mar it and she said i don't care, they got a picture of a young lady that they had done the same thing too previously, and they showed it to us. You see that pretty lady now this picture is the same picture of her and it was the most destructive picture you could see. They cut her face in slices, a beautiful young lady and this young lady smiled at the soldier and said i don't care. I won't. I won't denounce jesus because you see, sir, the beauty of the flesh is temporary and everybody is ugly twice. She said, but there's a beauty. You cannot touch what she meant was. All of us are ugly twice when you are born the most ugliest creature in the world come on now. Look at me is a newborn baby. You hear me if you take a picture of a two-minute old baby, you will think you are looking at a goblin. Is that right and then after a few weeks or so it changes the beautiful thing, then, when they grow old again all those wrinkles they had as a two minute old baby comes back and then they die. You open the casket of marilyn monroe right now, dig it up and look at it and you will see a skull probably with not even the worms wanted anymore and people worshipped her beauty but she's a skull. The bible says here: women, don't pride yourself on your physical looks. It also said beauty is fleeting because you see you see a nice young lady and she looks you know fine and 120 pounds or 100 pounds and you're real excited got a nice shape. Hang on brother hang on believe me: right, married men hang on them slender hips going to grow in the wrong direction. [ Laughter! ]! You hear me, i i'm talking straight to you today they're my arms, you think are so you know delicate and so fine hang on they gon na put a little fat on them. Eyes are gon na turn, baggy and that here, that you love so much gon na start changing color and after a while you're gon na wake up one morning, roll over. Look in the bed of this thing, [, Music, ] and you're - going to say to yourself. Did i marry this thing? No, that's not what you married. You married an image and the image changes every day. Don'T build your relationship on physical appearance. It'S going to change! Another thing about beauty is fleeting and i got to show this one in you know when a woman meets a guy, the girl meets a guy the first time she looks the best you know most of them wear my ass brothers watch it i'm talking sense here. They go to the hairdresser and get personal attention when they come in to meet you, they go get manicured spend three hours on their face when they are coming to meet you brother, when you see them, you see a product of six hours of preparation and to You you think this is the real thing. That'S right, you're laughing brother, i know what you mean, and so you get married to this image. Thank you. You wake up the next morning. All of a sudden. You see this creature, you mean all the colors gone on. The face they hear all messed up, grease everywhere and you're wondering if this is what i'm married, you got ta be joking. Let me go find my wife. She must be in the bathroom. Beauty is vain. It'S fleeting. Don'T get me wrong. Ladies look nice, but while you're looking nice whispering in there, it's in the real me quite you know this ain't, quite all of it. You notice. I don't look like this in the morning when i wake up darling, so remember get ready for tomorrow morning. It'S going to be a shock, but you know if you've got good character and good dignity if you've got the the gifts of the holy spirit and and the and the the blessings of god in your character. If the fruit of the spirit is in you, he won't even miss the face. He would see the you that he married beauty is vain, so be careful when you start judging people because of the physical looks love them for who they are in character. He closes this by saying, give her the reward she has earned and let her works bring praise to her at where the gates where the man works wow. First of all, it says let her let her work bring reward. That means she can only become what she is and she can only be seen for what she does and how she looks. Some women are not treated properly because they don't act properly, so they get their reward. Some are disrespected because they are not self-respecting and so they're treated. That way it says, but let her own works praise her in the gates. Let let the men come to the work, place and say brother. I saw your wife yesterday. She is one woman. She is such a nice woman man. She was helping the poor, she was working. Supervising the factory. You'Ve got one of the best women in this whole city. Now, how do you think that husband feels right? I mean you, don't you don't even understand how he feels and he's not hearing it from her he's sharing it from people. If people cannot come to you and say brother stanley, leona is a darling. I mean i've watched her for the past eight years and her life has been consistent. Brother man, you better realize what you got. Your merchandise is good, that's right say ray check it out. He says it's good understand. Let homework speak for her. You shouldn't have to tell people that you are a good woman. They should tell you, you are a good woman, let your work speak for you, don't tell people, i'm a kind person, let the poor tell them she's a kind person. I say to you: the qualities of a good woman are very simple: they found in god a good woman is not a woman who gets a master's degree. A good woman is not a woman who can take a body and influence men. A good woman is a woman who can cause praise to come from her husband and whatever you do. You unmarried ladies, live a life that will exemplify christ so that men will know you for who he is in you and not for what you have shown them of yourself. Let them be able to say every time i see you you remind me of jesus. These are the qualities of a good woman, dress, fine, but don't let it end there when it's all over. Let them praise you for your character and your nature, the kind of person you are in christ. Thank you once again for listening to this message, as we hope that it has been a blessing to you. Our goal is to show you new paths and opportunities so that you can discover your purpose. It is your love, support and partnership that makes monroe global possible. Please visit us online at www.monroeglobal.com for more product partnership or to join us at one of our live events around the world.